Identity Blockers

From my 2017 Retreat: ‚ÄúDiamonds‚ÄĚ

I already know… one of my lifetime goals is to help women pursue purpose through deciding to love themselves, lead and leverage the playing ground by how they navigate the world before them. To live authentically, and experience Carpe‚Äô diem! (Seize the day!)- via self expression, finding their voices and creating their own self-laws. Let me tell you… we cannot do this ideally with our identity suffering. There are many identity blockers that challenge us to think, behave and believe differently, every day of our lives. If we believe the things our minds tell us sometimes, then we will truly fail. And just because we have heard it a lot, doesn’t mean it’s actually true. In my dream, I desire to challenge women to be more of their ideal selves than who they really imagined themselves to be. I realized after working with so many women overtime – either through therapy, through small groups I‚Äôve created for writing groups, book clubs, or mentoring groups that we all essentially desire to get to know ourselves, better when we are in the company of other women.

And better is good… because it helps us to stop and drive forward for our best selves. Just take time to notice and meditate on how you allow any of the identity blockers (above) to alter your course, in life. If you notice a few, ask yourself whats one way I can notice someone with the exact opposite ( of that identity blocker ) and ask them to share their story , or mentor me in some way, So I can learn that skill, too? I was just sharing with my mentoring group how I struggled a bit trying to determine what was right for me; as I began to wield my ‚Äútwo edged -one word‚ÄĚ. I chuckle within myself, because My ‚Äėone word‚Äô for 2020, has become a focus of intentional regard and expression as I reach for this new identity !

I am finding the more I, seek for meaning with my word, the more I get invigorated to say more. And then I smile, because ‘asking, seeking and knocking’ are all concepts to help us grow and evolve. They are all principles that help us to manifest and develop into our best selves.

Are you truly asking, seeking and knocking for opportunity? Because the promises attached to this saying says : If you “ask it shall be given unto you, seek you and you shall find, and knock, and the door shall be opened unto you. (Matt 7:7)

ASK: “to challenge , to inquire to be on the hunt for…

SEEK: this one means to answer, pursue, and track down.

KNOCK: Did you know to knock means to ask again? It also means to seek. ( haha!) Isn’t that interesting.. we are asked to ask and then ask again… and seek some more… (Never stop asking or seeking!) There’s EXTREME benefit in it. Pretty deep huh?

Manifesting you‚Äôre dreams is good, I suppose . Just be mindful to not always set out with an intention to show off your gifts. Begin with purpose, ride the wave… and then you will end up surfing into another plan, another opportunity and another way to manage your gifts with lots of supporters around you; asking : How can we be a part of this thriving community!?


Still Embracing… #Embrace2017

¬†So… EMBRACE ¬†is /was my word for 2017… and here ¬†I am… ¬† Check out my “GROWTH”, ¬†‘right here!

photo by jennifer owens YASB photography
Here’s One:

‚ÄúIf its ¬†both terrifying and ¬†AMAZING, then you should definitely ¬†pursue it! ¬†‚ÄĚ


( I believe I may write about the next one… so I am saving it…)¬†

Here are a few things I am  embracing:

  1. A ¬†new assignment– I have “fully decided to embrace my ¬†occupation with working ¬†with those in the field of substance use. ¬†I have struggled with this’acceptance’ ¬†for years- perhaps because my father was an ¬†alcoholic, and ¬†I ¬†just ¬†had personal reservations. ¬†But the more I think about ¬†saying yes – the more excited ¬†I become about helping ¬† them, ¬†and be ¬†‘whole ‘ people- and ¬†be successful at ¬†what they do; as well as their families.
  2. ¬†A new project! – Still working with women, but deciding even more… that I ¬†really want to do more and ¬†be a part of other’s dreams and projects as well as ¬† improve my own processes and ¬†groups . I have begun I am excited about helping ¬†another sister launch one of ¬†her dreams!
  3. ¬†A ¬†new ¬†approach towards seeking God. ¬†My “Examen” process is ¬†a ¬†really ¬†beautiful ¬†spiritual way of trying to find myself ¬†again, spiritually¬†and connect with God . I love the process ¬†of this, ¬†and the new community I have found. ¬† We all have ¬†“little rooms” in which we all hang out ‘ ; ¬†and communicate – and attempt to find God ¬†in our creative ¬†efforts, or our spiritual leadership.
  4. ¬†I ¬†am also ¬†embracing the need to ¬†just ” be disciplined” I am realizing ¬†that with greater ¬†balance in my life – I have ¬†greater ¬†discipline. ¬†And I am ¬†not ¬†really seeking to NOT DO ¬†some things – but to ¬† take time to ask my spirit how it feels to do ¬†it , and ¬† determine whether the act itself ¬†takes a anything away from me doing doing ¬†the hard work of self – evaluating ¬†and determine ¬† the height, depth and breadth of ¬†doing ¬†disciplined work. Hmm.. I have to write and then research more about this… ¬†I am not sure I really want to know.. but i feel its the only way to ¬†reach my ¬†dreams and ¬†my ultimate ¬†goal sin life.. to ” push” myself and allow myself to ¬†be ¬†something that feels ¬†totally uncomfortable – as ¬†least ¬†in the beginning stages, anyway… ¬†right? Ever ¬†feel like your whole life is catapulting you towards something beautiful? ¬†Something you haven’t even ¬†yet fulled ¬†embraced in your ¬†conscious life? ¬†But its ¬†sole embedded in your ¬† sub-conscious and it’s yet calling you, even deep in your spirit — sometimes in ¬†your sleep; and then in your dreams, yet again and a again? ¬† well ¬†let me ¬†tell you … (the other night I had a dream ¬†I w as creating a ¬† curriculum about ¬†the subconscious mind and ¬†the conscious mind and how they conflict with or ¬†come against ¬†some times the mind of ¬†Christ. ) I was writing a program with a specific person ¬† just like that…! ¬†Hmm.. ¬†I wonder if I should tell her…?) ¬†I feel like I should.. (I will.)
  5. ¬†I ¬†guess the last thing I am embracing is my relationships with other women. I ¬†seem to love ¬†true, authentic women; and I feel I have a knack- if you will – for creating that kind of ¬†group … its happening ! I have made friends, I ¬†have a mentoring group and we talk often about being ¬†healthy and ¬†keeping that healthy mindset primary; now and ¬†I have begun to even ¬†create a women’s mastermind ¬†group! ¬†I am so , so ¬†surprised! ¬†I ¬†guess because this ¬†wasn’t really my ¬†idea or thoughts to do ¬†so in this season of my ¬†life – yet ¬†it was time. It just kind of happened ¬†while I was working on something else. ¬†And it just made ¬†perfect sense to ¬†do! So I did.

Well.. there it is…. here ¬†are ¬† the ¬†five ¬†things I am embracing :

  • ¬†my relationships
  • my ¬†discipline and leadership role, fully
  • my ¬† social life
  • my projects and ¬†authentic roles
  • my new assignment ¬†with ¬† addictions and people ¬†struggling with them.


This is ¬†“spiritual self care” ¬†ladies, ¬†be aware on ¬†a level where you self-evaluate¬†regularly so you can ¬† cultivate and acknowledge your own goodness and growth process.


¬†(….and.. whew! Its been ¬†quite a ¬†new year!)